Hilarious.........

This truly cracked me up, please enjoy.

http://naijapose.com/nigerian-celebrities-and-the-animated-characters-they-look-like/

Enjoy your weekend peeps..........

LOSE THE I DON’T CARE ATTITUDE………NOW

Hey Peeps,

I love this topic and i have a feeling it will be a three part series as there is so much to talk about regarding the matter.

This happens to a lot of us mostly the female gender, when you stop giving thought, time and effort to your appearance once you snag a guy, your thinking will be like why do I have to bother after all I am married so there’s no point been on point.

A lot of people have fallen victim to the pains this mindset can cause and come to think of it what were you expecting to happen? When you were single, you went all out to look your best, paid attention to your hair, nails and dressing now you think because you have gotten what you want you should just sit still and enjoy it without making an effort to keep it together???

I do not understand why we change once we walk down the aisle, it annoys me to see beautiful ladies that looked like Cinderella in their wedding dresses to turn into the ugly step sister all in the name of marriage, When the person you are married to met you, he /she saw something that attracted them to you; you need to find out what that attraction is and make a conscious effort to maintain and constantly improve on it even after the kids come and age sets in. the fact that you are married is not an automatic license for you to gain weight, become a couch potato or lose focus entirely in the beauty and health department (my dear that is when the real work begins).

As a single lady I loved my bum shorts, short dresses and high heel shoes that’s one of the eye catching things my husband noticed about me and he encouraged me in them even while I was pregnant I still rocked them very well. What annoys me mostly is when we as women start having kids, we now lose sight of caring for ourselves and concentrate fully on the baby and this happens without you knowing it, it just creeps in and all of a sudden you now look like Ugly Betty. 

I was almost sucked into that percentage of women but thank God for my husband and other strong women around me. I learned that when you are at this stage of your life the only people that can help you if you are willing to be helped are those people closest to you; note that most of them may not want to advise you because of the fear of how you will respond to criticism.

I love my job, the environment and the women (mothers with kids and still look on point at all times) I interact with on a daily basis, it’s a matter of shape up or you shape out……..you see women that have been married for 10 years with kids and they look as hot as a model and you that just had your first child will have to do what it takes to get back in shape because you have role models to look up to and the beauty of it is that they encourage and give you tips.

My advice to you is surrounding yourself with great minds, beautiful women that have achieved more than what you have and learn from them, it makes your journey easier as you are a product of your environment. 

Be wise, stay focused, in shape and healthy.

HIS GRACE IS SUFFICIENT....

Hello Peeps,

Recently I started thinking and meditating upon this journey called marriage……I came to realize that age doesn’t really prepare you for this huge journey neither does other people’s experiences lead you along the right path because what works for A may not work for B, so the idea is to find out the best formula for you and stick to it.

Growing up I was privileged to see a lot of good marriages and the work that went into building them, most importantly it takes the grace of God to make anything in life work and marriage itself need greater grace (if there’s anything like that).

I haven’t been married long enough to have all the answers or formulas, it’s still work in progress for me as I learn everyday as each day comes with its own challenge. I have always desired a peaceful, quiet, God friendly atmosphere and growing up I made a vow that no matter what I find in marriage as long as there’s no violence, verbal abuse, cheating or any of those very negative vibes, I will stick to it and make it work.

Two very different people raised in different backgrounds with very different values and beliefs, even if you both believe in and have the fear of God; you come together in marriage to live under one roof with different temperaments, ideologies, and way of doing things, there’s bound to be friction no matter how much you love each other because each of you have your own very strong opinion on how things should be done, for instance I was raised to be very independent, work for and spend my own money, I am what you will call a strong woman (or a feminist, because I believe strongly that a woman can achieve what she wants if she works hard for it) add that to the fact that I got married in my 30’s when I was already set in my ways, I pay for my vacation  at least once a year, I bought my car with my own money and generally live an independent life; needless to say it was very difficult for me to adjust into allowing a man do for me certain things I was used to doing for myself.

I had my own rules and things should be done at a certain time in a certain way which is my way, but marriage has opened my eyes to see that it is no longer about me, myself and I, there are other parties involved that their opinions equally count and more so there’s this thing called Ego in the male gender (that makes them act more superior to the female gender) you have to be extra sensitive so as not to bruise that ego. 

It took a lot of getting used to and I won’t say I am there yet but it is definitely work in progress. Thank God for the grace of God and patience, we all need patience to be able to understand each other, my candid advice is be more patient, be as open as possible, don’t keep secrets from each other, give each other the benefit of doubt, don’t be too quick to judge, be supportive of each other’s dreams and ambitions, complement each other, understand each other’s mood at every point, be quick to apologize even when you are not at fault.

Its quite a challenge but like I said earlier if you are patient everything good will happen for you, so my dears, lets try and make our marriage work no matter what it takes. 

Cheers guys  and feel free to leave comments and contributions on what works for you and what you have learned in your journey of marriage.

CARING FOR OUR AGED PARENTS!!

hey peeps,

howz it going? trust you have all been good. we thank God for the gift of life, good health and sound mind. I celebrated my birthday last week and my son turned one two weeks ago......(time to start working on baby no.2....hehehehehe). anyways it was all a great week of celebrations, that will be gist for another day.

Today I want to talk about caring for our parents, because most of us do not have wealthy parents, that still have more than enough to live on, especially if the are now retired....this thot came to me when I over heard a friend of mine complain that anytime the mum calls him its to ask for money.....his comment shoked me to the bones and i sat him down to have a heart to heart.

My parents are both retired, my dad is 76years and my mum is 68years old, my mum was forced into retirement when the Tejuosho market was overtaken by the current builders and my dada retired from coca-cola when I was still in secondary school.......but thank God they built a house and shops together so there was no need to ever raise money for rent. together they both have 6 children and all are actively involved in caring for them now that they nolonger make money....

Someone is responsible for their medicals, another for feeding, another for monthly allowances, another for dstv and gas bills, another for general upkeep, then another is mandated to check-in on them at least once in 2 weeks. I believe it was because of the way we were raised, we didnt have much growing up but we always stick together no matter what.

After my discussion with my friend he said why would they do that; that his dad wasn't responsible for his education (cos he never had money to pay for it) that he got to where he is now by working his butt off and paying his fees, I reminded him that his parents tried their best to put food on the table and shelter over his head while growing up and most importantly they always prayed for him and that on its own is enough sacrifice because they gave him all they had....it was difficult to convince him though but i pray he takes my advice and do the needful.

I also want to reach out to all the people like me that didnt have much growing up and have made something out of nothing, its time for you to reach out to your parents and care for them, be the example you want your kids to see cos someday soon you will be in their shoes and expect your kids to do care for you. stop seeing your aged parents as burdens that you have to bare, but rather see them as an extension of you that need care and attention.

Another friend of mine was frustrated to the point of looking to put her mum in an old people's home.....i was in shock when she asked if i knew any in Lagos.....I asked why in God's green earth would you want to put your mum in an old peoples home in Nigeria; that will be sending her to an early grave......and she goes..... you dont know my mum she is so difficult that no one can stand her.....and i responded that the cause of her attitude is age,  you know the older they get, the more paranoid they become; cos i remembered sometime my mum was acting all weird and we all were complaining at a point and later understood what the issue was, and now we are all used to it.......she said they have tried all they could, gotten a nurse, and elderly help e.t.c but she frustrates them all into leaving.......I told her what my mum usually says "I dont want your money all I want is your love, attention and relationship". I dont know what she finally decided on cos I felt i was prying into her private life.

So my friends please let us take a cue from my mum's comment and try to build or mend our relationships with our parents, show them love and attention, be patient with them and kind to them because they did all they could afford for you, take for instance how much you love your own child and don't want any harm to come to them........yeah that's the same way they feel about you. Its strange but the fact is i call my mum everyday.......yeah i do, and if i don't she does. Let us change our ways and make life better and easy for them.

Cheers guys and have a fabulous day.

SEASON OF LOVE!!!

Hey peeps,

The season of love is upon us again, even though I don't see any reason why love should not be celebrated everyday of our lives......some people actually go off on how this date is supposed to be very special... blah blah blah.

Trust me I am a strong believer in love and very romantic but I dont expect you to show me love in just one day out of the 365 days in the year. This belef has been misconstrued by a lot of people and it is now the period where all sorts of attrocities happen, innocent girls lose their virginities all in the name of valentine's day......the devil has sold so many lies to people all in the name of valentines day.......a lot of ladies have also lost good relationships because of their belief in valentine.

Someone may have shown you all the love and attention you deserve but because he didnt buy you flowers for valentine all of a sudden he's not romantic......people show love in different ways and I am sorry to say that you cannot force someone to love you the way you want to be loved, if you cant live with the way they express love to you while dating there's no point marrying them and complaining tomorrow.

I reacently read an article in Myne Whitman's blog Dear Myne - I am Happily Married to an Igbo Man its a must read for all as it did further open my eyes to a few things on making the right choice and understanding what or who you are signing up for and learn to live with the decision you make.

Don't be deceived, love is truly what you make of it, don't be fooled with the drama that goes on in the world and enjoy your own relationship the way it is cos remember you signed up for it from the onset so make an effort to make it work and not complain.

If your spouse did not go out of his/her way to make this valentine special (according to your terms) don't go off on him/her, rather make an effort to improve on things..

Wishing you the very best.

WEIGHT LOSS SAGA..........

Hmmmm this weight loss matter no easy o, I recently had a comprehensive medical checkup and I am 100% healthy (thank God for His grace) but I found out I need to lose 7kg as my BMI indicated that I am over-weight……phew (sad face). We all know I have embarked on my weight loss journey before now.

I decided to look for trouble and told my sweetheart that I am 7kg over-weight and he goes… you see what I was trying to tell you, now you believe because a doctor told you so. But my major concern now is that according to the doctor, I not only need to cut down o my food intake, I need to eat a healthy balanced meal and throw in some exercise as well. If you know me very well, the thought of exercise freaks me out even during my full medical checkup when I had to do the ECG and the guy asked me to go on the treadmill until he tells me to stop……the most embarrassing thing happened as I started panting like a cow after 2 minutes (disgraceful huh?).

With that in mind I decided I was going to take action and enroll myself in a gym where I will be monitored and supervised cos I would just continue deceiving myself if I decide to exercise at home, laziness may creep in plus the fact that I may not have the time or the courage to see it through.

Now I have to psych myself up mentally to make that happen, hmmm if only I can find an aerobics class as I love dancing so much that will definitely ginger my spirit, but what ever the case is, I need to start exercising soon.

I encourage you all to be conscious of your health by having a regular medical checkup, it doesn’t cost so much and I strongly recommend the Union Diagnostics Center on Ogabi Eletu street off Adeola Odeku VI, with as low as =N=40,000.00 you can get a comprehensive checkup and the guys there are wonderful too. (trust me I wasn’t paid for this but anytime I find some useful information I always share it)

Have a great week guys and I hope to sort out my gym palava sooner than later.

ALL HAIL THE SUPER EAGLES.

Hey peeps,

Hwz it going? I'm sure you are still reeling from the euphoria of the super eagles wining the African cup of nations yesterday.......to tell you the truth I almost had a high blood pressure with all the drama on the pitch during the final minutes of the game. Thank God we came out strong at the end of it all…..it’s been nineteen years since we last won the cup and with all the foreign coaches and so much dollars that has been paid in the past……..it took a Nigerian coach to bring us this far

I must confess during the group stages I totally gave up on the super eagles with all the matches they had drawn, I felt like we’re back to having to qualify based on calculations and permutations……….but I guess the god of soccer heard the cries of Coach Stephen Okechukwu Keshi (the only African that won the nations cup as a player and a coach).

  

This came at the right time I must tell you, after Eboue has gone off on twitter insulting Nigerians, I took it personal and really prayed for the super eagles and I’m sure a lot of you did too…..now guess who’s laughing last…….the super chickens hehehehehe.

All in all it was a good outing for us and Keshi can heave a sigh of relief that the local based team he set up has done us proud as a country and I apologize openly and publicly for ever doubting this dream team.

Now I feel sad for the likes of Osaze, Obafemi Martins and the rest of them that were not part of this success story, I wonder how they feel now cos I guess like me they didn’t have faith in Nigeria; but here we are today lifting the cup again its indeed a miracle.

Once again, I congratulate all Nigerians and I hope you popped something to celebrate even if it’s a bottle of energy drink ……wink……wink…

God bless you!

God bless the Super Eagles!!

God bless Nigeria!!!